Thursday, August 13, 2020

An Email

(I took this from an email I wrote.It explains my commitment to Black Lives Matter.)



I grew up in the only county in the US, outside the deep south, that was almost 50/50 Black and White. I knew only a few adult blacks and none of their children. The adults called me "Mister Jimmy". I only realized years later that it was probably meant derogatorily. I just grew up thinking it was the way things were. My father--not my mother---was a quiet racist. In his many jobs he served lots of Black customers, but when he came to my first Church, St. James in Charleston, WV, as I was showing him around he said, "It doesn't smell like I expected." I never went to school with Black students until my Senior Year of high School. The Black High School had sent over 3 male athletes and 3 smart girls to pave the way since the next year, the schools would merge. (Which meant that all over the county the Black Schools would close in disrepair and the Blacks would come to the better kept white schools). I became close friends with a student from the Black School when we were in college. He would introduce me to his friends by saying, "we went to different high schools together."

Since college I have done all I could for the Civil Rights Movement. During seminary I walked in marches. Since then I've given money to Civil rights groups. My childhood taught me how terrible and limiting segregation had been.

As a young priest, I went to St. James in Charleston, a black parish. With so few black Episcopal priests, St. James couldn't afford them. For five years they educated me in what it was like to be Black in America. The Senior Warden, a man who served in the army and went to the level of Colonel, showed me the turban he wore traveling through the South. He was light skinned and wearing the turban meant he could get a room in a hotel. Disgraceful that he had to do that. Most of the members of St. James worked or taught at a local previously all--Black college. It was the most educated congregation I ever served, yet they faced discrimination daily. It outraged me.

The other two churches I served--St. Paul's in New Haven and St. John's in Waterbury--both had large minority groups. An important member of the Cluster was baptized at St. Paul's (not by me) but members of his extended family were there when I was. St. John's had a huge extended family of Island Blacks. I would always wait for the moment when a seminarian would ask me why so many of the Black people sat together. I would say, "what if they all had red hair and freckles?" Then they'd get it. That family, all dressed almost formally for church. The little girls wore gloves and hats. The little boys, suits and ties. That family, almost 50 people, took me in and made me an Island White with food and drinks and jokes about the Islands.

So, as you can see, my entire full time ministry was surrounded by people of color--including a Hispanic congregation in Waterbury of over 100 which required a Spanish speaking assistant.

Given my segregationist upbringing, my commitment to civil rights is bone deep.


I hope you can understand why I come from where I do about Black Lives Matter.


 
 (The opinions here are mine and mine alone.)

Can you imagine?

Can you imagine the outrage if Obama had referred to a white woman as 'nasty'?

And yet our current president referred to Kamala Harris that way several times after she was announced as Biden's VP. And other derogatory terms I won't repeat here.

This is about race, but it also about gender.

It's also about decency and common courtesy.

I remember former Presidents who always referred to their opponents as "my honorable opponent", not 'sleepy Joe'.

 John McCain several times shut down people at his rallies that said Obama 'was not an American'. "He's as American as you," McCain told one of his supporters.

The current president is a threat to the peaceful transfer of power: constantly implying (falsely) that mail in voting will create fraud, saying "I'll have to wait and see" when asked if he would accept the results of the election, questioning if illegal voters will be counted.

Democracy is based on mutual respect and the rule of law. And the federal government taking charge in emergencies. To say little has been done by the White House during the pandemic would give them too much credit. And a second, much needed Covid relief bill is being held up because the Democrats want more money for the Postal Service (that the President wants to destroy!) to insure the safety of mail-in ballots.

The current president puts all that at risk.

I don't think our democracy could survive 4 more years of his lies and dismantling of our institutions and values.

BIDEN/HARRIS 2020!!!!!!!!!!

Our country is in the balance.

(All opinions here are mine and mine alone.)

 

Wednesday, August 12, 2020

I couldn't be happier!

It's not just the visit to Mimi, Tim and Eleanor that makes me happy tonight--though that was priceless for Eleanor's 4th birthday. She had a unicorn cake that cost $70, which shocked me greatly, until Mimi told me it would have cost $150 in NYC.

North Branch is so peaceful and calm. Tim loves it. Mimi misses the city and goes into her office every week and a half or so. She went this morning before we came home.

What also makes me happy is Kamala  Harris as Biden's VP pick.

She was my favorite all along.

Here tearing into Biden at the Democratic debates means he's a man who can take criticism and live with it. Hooray for him! Unlike our current president who only accepts agreement and compliance or fires you.

I've watched Harris in the debates and questioning Republicans in the Senate. She will shred Pence in a debate, if one happens in this strange time.

Half of her DNA from Jamaica and half is from India. Black and Asian. What better?

Her parents met at a civil rights protest in California. What better place for her parents to have met?

She is just what we need today, a woman from two parts of the world who was a District Attorney, an Attorney General of our largest state and an U.S. Senator.

Just what we need today.

Joy! Joy!

Tucker Carlson was mispronouncing her first name in an interview today--he was saying "Ka-Mel-La" and the person he was talking to corrected him. "It's 'comma', like the punctuation mark", he told Tucker, and , "and 'la' at the end."

Tucker was not happy at being corrected.

He's not happy, at all, at Biden's pick.

Kamala changes the whole dynamic of the election.

(Opinions here are mine and mine alone.)


Monday, August 10, 2020

Eleanor's birthday

We're going tomorrow for an overnight visit to Mimi and Tim and Eleanor for Eleanor's 4th birthday.

They live in North Branch, NY, in a house they bought before the pandemic but which takes them out of NYC, where they live and work. Mimi goes to the city once a week, Tim, never, but he works for an internet company and only needs a computer to work.

We love them so (Just as we love Josh, Cathy, Tegan, Morgan and Emma) and look so forward to seeing them and wishing Eleanor 'happy, happy'.

In this time of pandemic, deepen and expand your love of family.

Family is one of the things that make sense these days.

We need to hold fast to each other in strange times.



Saturday, August 8, 2020

Let there be light!

How are you doing after the tropical storm came through New England?

 We lost power sometime Tuesday afternoon and it didn't come back until 3:30 a.m. Thursday. About 36 hours. Two dark, dark nights but Bern had so many candles that our house looked like a cathedral!

Cable didn't come back until this morning, which is why I haven't posted in so long.

Two things I've learned: never take electricity for granted and feel fortunate when you get it back and others haven't. This afternoon there were still 2900 customers in Cheshire that hadn't had power restored. Initially 94% of Cheshire was out of power.

 The storm upended and ruined Bern's grape arbor. We couldn't get it back together so she cut off all the branches. No grapes this summer.

Lots of tree branches in the yard. We are surrounded by very big trees on the east side of our yard. But no real damage.

Brigit, our dog, was freaked out by the dark and no TV. We usually eat dinner in the TV room and she's with us. But Tuesday and Wednesday we ate out on the deck. We lost most of the stuff in our freezer, but things in the refrigerator were ok.

Never, ever take electricity for granted!

We also got power back before most of Cheshire. Always count your blessings and feel fortunate.

We're doing zoom church though some of our parishioners are still without power. I called people to read and they're all ok--power, internet, all of it.

On top of the Pandemic and the Black Lives Matter demonstrations, the storm was just one more thing.

Lord, help us!

You know we need it!

 

Monday, August 3, 2020

Holmes and Watson in modern time

I just finished a 4 book series by Brittany Cavallaro about Charlotte Holmes and Jamie Watson.

They are great-great-great grand-children of Sherlock and John.

Brittany is a talented writer and the series is very, very good.

Charlotte is pretty messed up but capable of  on-target deduction.

Jamie is a normal kid who is a writer.

They are both from England but meet at a boarding school in Connecticut.

They're in love, in an odd way (you'll see if you read them) and always in danger.

Moriarty's are every where.

I enjoyed it a lot.

Teen aged Holmes and Watson, solving mysteries.

Check it out.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_NCX5sr08g&feature=youtu.be
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(all opinions here are mine and mine alone)

laying low

Because of the heat we seldom leave the house.

Except for the grocery store and my every two week shots at Waterbury Hospital, I don't go much of anywhere.

Bern went to see her friend Sherry on Sunday. They sat halfway across a big front from each other.

Other than that she is only in the grocery.

I'm getting used to laying low.

At first it bothered me, but not for a couple of weeks now.

Who knew zoom would be our social life. Zoom church, Zoom my clergy group, Zoom with Josh and his family. Facetime on Bern's phone with Eleanor.

We pick up books outside the library.

I picked up Brigit's prescription outside the Vet's.

When we order out dinner once a week or so, I pick it up sitting outside.

The wine store I go to will bring it out to your car if you call ahead.

Lots of outside things.

l like that.

Who knows how long this will go on.

Lots of laying low.

(Opinions on this blog are mine and mine alone.)

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