I'm not yet sure how that happened, how I have been that blessed, to know this woman I love so long and to have been married to her so long. We have two children, both of whom are wondrous, and three granddaughters who are wondrous as well. What star was in what alignment to give us this gift?
I look at that picture on my desk a lot, remembering how blessed I am.
For Christmas each year, Bern does a piece of art for me and I write her something.
Here's what I wrote for her two years ago. I hope you see from it how blessed and lucky I am.
For
Bern for Christmas 2013
WHAT
WE NEED TO DO
What we need to do, you and I,
Is love each other forever.
We're almost half-way there
from that night under the
bleachers
in, what was it? 1964?
That's just under
half-a-century, right there!
Forever isn't that far away,
given how Time
tends to speed up when you age
to the age we are now.
Do you remember the score
that night?
Or even who Gary High was
playing?
I certainly don't.
All I remember—and remember
quite well--
is how I was trembling
as I held you
and kissed you
for most of four quarters
of a High School football game.
We've made it this far,
a long way, all said and done,
so why not go for Forever?
It's not always been easy
sailing
but the sea of life is seldom
calm.
But we've endured, survived,
even thrived
in all these years...all these
long years
that seem shorter, each one,
the longer we go on.
No one has ever done it,
in my knowledge,
been in love forever,
I mean.
But new things have to happen
all the time or else
everything would start running
backwards.
It's not been easy—but who
said
'it would be easy'--
but more ups than downs,
more wonder than
disappointment,
more hope than despair.
I think that at least,
and hope you do.
There are these two children we
made
and you birthed
and we fretted over for so many
years.
There are those two--
more ups than downs with them
too,
more wonder than
disappointment,
more hope than despair.
That too, I think,
requires a shot at Forever.
(I often can't believe I've
lived
as long as I have.
Yet I have.)
There is no way to deny Time.
I just did the math,
(how silly is that?)
and through division
realized I've known you
and loved you exactly
69.1% of my whole, long life.
Jeezie peezie, that's a long
time!
About half way to Forever.
So, why don't we go for it,
as best we can, getting older
every day,
to make it to Forever?
We've made it this far,
why not forget about 'the Home'
and just decide that
this is this.
Like FOREVER.
It would be more ups than
downs,
more wonder than
disappointments,
more hope than despair,
just like it's been
half-way-to-Forever
already.
So, how 'bout it? We can talk
about it later.....